Disappointments can be crushing to self-esteem, leaving us feeling sad, regretful, dismayed or sorrowful. Those feelings can emerge from any number of factors, be it the recent slew of natural disasters or the country’s political climate. When this happens, we may feel paralyzed by our circumstances and focus on feelings of loss, not dissimilar to mourning.
The mourning process—be it over the death of a loved one or the ending of a relationship—is essential. Those who don’t mourn may feel stuck and subsequently express emotions in unhealthy and destructive ways. They may become more conflict prone, easily angered or frustrated, feel depressed or anxious, and may consume more alcohol or other substances to self-medicate.
When this happens, be wary of generalizing disappointment, as it can lead to a cycle of self-sabotage. Those suffering from depression or anxiety during this time may inadvertently do this.
After the mourning process, feelings of hope tend to emerge, giving us new perspectives, helping us with emotional growth and strengthening relationships. It’s important to remember that allowing yourself to experience the pain of disappointment and expressing feelings about it will lead to greater degrees of resiliency.
Here are five tips for dealing with disappointment: