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Afraid to Ask for Help?


Asking for help is more difficult for some than it is for others. But it has been shown to greatly improve our degree of happiness.

Getting the help we need deepens our relationships with others. When we share our burdens, struggles and problems, we create intimacy, leading to more harmonious relationships. Asking for help also aids in developing a sense of personal empowerment and emotional growth. 

So if asking for help can make you happier, why does it make so many people feel uncomfortable? One of the biggest obstacles is the fear of appearing vulnerable. Others fear their requests will fall on deaf ears, while others don’t want to appear as if they’re not self-sufficient or in control.

Here are five ways to get the help you need:

1. Start out with a simple request. It will make you feel less vulnerable.
2. Have realistic expectations. People can offer their help, but they may not be able to solve your problem. 
3. Express what you need help with in a clear and concise way.
4. Let others know you are there to help them, as well.
5. Give a big “thank you” to those who’ve helped you.

What stops you from asking for help? I’d like to hear from you. Comment below or email me at drpauladurlofsky@gmail.com.